Emotional Intelligence (EI) is what I consider one of the most important traits any human should have. It is something I was never taught in any educational institution I have attended . I am a firm believer that EI is more important than IQ in order to achieve anything in life, whether it be career progression or personal wellbeing.
It is a characteristic that can be developed with continuous observation and practice.
Here is my doctrinal explanation of EI:
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to observe ones and others emotions, in a personal or professional situation in order to handle relationships and decisions judiciously and comprehensively. Two Key elements that establish overall EI are; self-regulation and self-awareness. Both EI skills are consistent characteristics in all leaders/successful individuals, with self-awareness being the cornerstone to maintaining self-regulation.
In simple terms; self-awareness allows a leader to have a conscious knowledge and understanding of their emotions and how they impact on their own and others behavior.
A leader that is self-aware has a clear perception of their own personality, motivations, behaviors, etc. In return allowing the leader to respond constructively to all forms of feedback. Partnered with self-awareness is self-regulation.
Self-regulation enables the leader to manage emotions and behaviors; and understand how that management impacts others in certain situations. Leaders that have high levels of self-regulation can depersonalize and reframe situations to avoid damaging relationships and fabricate reasonable decisions.
Even if you are not currently leading any teams, EI is an essential ingredient in the recipe for personal success.
It will help you:
Increase physical health
You will understand how your physical health affects your emotional state which will make you want to manage your body and stress by eating well and exercising.
EI influences our attitude on life. Self-awareness allows us to realize that we are emotionally unhappy and as a result will do something that will make us feel better.
How you treat yourself and the way you act is absorbed by the people around you. An emotionally intelligent person respects not only their selves but treats others how they would like to be treated.
Confidence in the fact that you know who you are (authentic). You will be able to understand your own emotions and values. Other people will appreciate the fact that your personality does not reflect an emotional roller coaster.
Employers are actively looking for staff that demonstrate a higher level of EI over IQ. You can be emotionally intelligent enough to understand your intellectual shortfalls and overcome them. But if you have a high IQ and think you are always right; your workmates will not like you at all.
In the end, it is up to you to actively apply EI to your daily lifestyle. I guarantee that your quality of life, professionally and personally will improve.
Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich.